Q&A: Where Do I Belong ?


Q:  I’ve been searching high and low for a job and have been rejected or ignored at every turn. I am a 25 year old girl who has a strong background but maybe I’m not even looking at the right jobs for me. I feel lost and purposeless. It has been almost a year. I want nothing more than to have a purpose. Please help. 

I have a Bachelor’s from a reputable college and a strong background in retail, customer service and childcare before graduating and then I moved (to another city) where I worked for 2 major firms doing marketing and PR. 



A:  M, your post doesn’t indicate how many jobs you have applied for, in what field or over how long a time span, so I will have to make several assumptions here.  If you are feeling rejected and ignored at every turn, it may indicate that you are:

  • applying for jobs you are not qualified for (so an employer will not consider you)
  • using a resume/application that does not indicate your qualifications for the job
  • not utilizing keywords when completing online 
  • improperly completing online/written applications
  • not waiting long enough for responses from employers

One of the things we forget as job seekers is that we are not the only ones applying.  Hiring managers are charged with the responsibility of filtering through numerous applications and resumes and many never even cross their glance.  It is essential that you, as the person applying,eliminate every excuse they may have to dismiss you as a viable candidate for the job.  You can do this by:

  • Ensuring that your resume and application are complete, error free, and up to date.
  • Being sure to emphasize those of your qualifications that meet or are transferable to the job offering.
  • Following up on your application/resume with the appropriate party.

Although the rejection that one experiences in the process of a job search may be discouraging and a real blow to the ego, you must remember that not getting a job that is not a match for your skills set and interest may be a blessing in disguise.

Instead of allowing this experience to make you feel lost and purposeless, try to discover a renewed sense of determination.  

Plan out and organize your job search the way you would a marketing/PR campaign or a new floor set at a retail store.  Gather information about the career path you’ve chosen and begin to strategize on how you would best get started (or continue it).  Get to know the players in your market.  Study how they’ve done it.  Do the same.  Network with these types of people online and in person. Keep track of your applications and follow up with people with whom you have interviewed.  Ask for feedback.  Contact your alma mater’s career center and request any resources they may make available for alumni.

In addition, you may want to check with the Department of Labor in your area to see what the occupational outlook is there to know if a move is necessary.

Don’t give up.  The job for you may be just around the bend.

Best wishes.


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